Sunday, April 30, 2017

When I Remember You

By: Charlton D. Kis-ing

I was lying in bed alone one rainy afternoon. I hear the rain drops splattering in the rooftop. I hear the wind blew softly from my window pane. I decided to wake up and open my window enough to watch the rain drops and feel the cool wind. Ah! It gives me chills as it soothes my withered body. I hear the children laughing and screaming at the top of their lungs enjoying and playing under the comfort of the summer rain.

I feel the joy of these children running around and playing, throwing muds at each other. The innocents in them transcends. These kids are worry free and so I thought they’re free and they’re enjoying every minute that they have playing.

I remember the vulnerability and freedom of being a kid. I remember the time when I cherished the mud fish given by my childhood friend before he left me with no playmates left. I remember the times when I playing under the avocado tree, playing wet soils wet by my own urine, crying over a pet and laughing with my dog.

I imagine I was playing with them. I imagine laughing with them. Then I remember I was alone in my house so dark and so quiet. Then I remember I am now at 40. I checked my watch and its almost sunset. I know someone would come. I remember I was waiting for someone to come. I know someone so special and yet so dear to me would come. I smell the aroma of the coffee coming from my neighbor’s house. “Ahhh smells so good! Smells so refreshing.” That aroma. I remember a place. My favorite since I was 25 years old. I remember the coziness of the place. I smiled. I know that place is special. I know I made it so special and so dear.

“Uncle!” I heard someone, a child’s voice. So, angelic and so sweet. I saw the child waiving so I waived back to the child then I saw him running away playing with the other kids. That kids face looks so familiar. I remember someone with that face.

Then I felt cold that I shiver down my bones. I felt my muscles are shaking. I felt my back is aching. I felt I was in a roller coaster ride. I felt I was spinning. I felt I was falling. Then I heard a scream, “Daddy, uncle fell!”, screamed the child. I can’t see anything. It was dark. I just felt cold and numb. I was shivering. I can’t move anything.

BLAGGG! I heard. I think it was the door opening. I hear footstep. I hear someone’s talking. I listened attentively. 

“Rey… hey buddy! Rey wake up.”

“Can someone help. Please call an ambulance.”

I feel him shaking me. I feel him hugging me. I feel the warmth of his embrace. It feels familiar. I tried to open my eyes wide. I touched his face. I touched his nape, his nose and his lips. “I know it’s you. I remember you”, I said.

“Shhhhh. I am happy you remember me my friend,” he replied.

“It was you I had been waiting for all these time. I haven’t seen you in a while, I will be waiting for you even in the after life till we will have more time to spend," I said

Then the numbness is growing fast, everything is fading away, and I felt I am freezing cold. I can’t understand what their saying. Everything is fading away. I no longer can’t hear anything, I can’t see anything, I can’t feel anything.

Monday, April 24, 2017

When It Rains It Pours

Everyone of us may probably know what my title is all about. Its actually very simple and very straight forward. "If things go wrong everything seems wrong but when opportunity knocks then there'd be a lot as well.

Many times in my life I somehow could atest to the moments where everything seems to be falling and or everything seems to be workin in my favor. We all have this moments in our life. The thing here is when everything is falling into the cracks the best is just to keep on sailing on, it shall pass like many other moments in our life. A storm can only stay and shatter you in a given amount of time just indure it and before we know it... it has passed its time.

There will also be moments in our life when we enjoy the bright and sunny days of our life. At this point in time, we shouldnt be relaxing we should enjoy that moment as we prepare when another storm should pass. The choice we make in these beautiful side of our life is our shield when another storm will pass...

In everything, I trust in God. I pray to Him when I am happy. I PRAY when I am sad. Trusting him in any way makes me delighted and at ease. In search for a new job or starting up a business its definitely about HIM... I knew I can never go wrong when I trust in Him.

Oportunities come in many forms and in many ways. So its up to you when you grab those opportunities and make the most of it because those opportunities do come to help you prepare for the days where everything seems to be falling apart.

We have summer time to prepare and we have spring to harvest and we have rainy days to enjoy what we have harvested. Thats the season of life and thats what I shall do moving forward.

Sunday, April 9, 2017

The Leader In Me

Finding the Leader in Me
By: Charlton Domoguen Kis-ing

Miranda Priestly of Devils Wears Prada is always the kind of character that I perceive to be a great leader when I am starting my career. She has that character and personality so strong that would make you prioritize what she wants. She has a very good command and power that when she barges into the office, she already conveys message easily understood by everyone even without her saying any words.

As years go by, I then reassess myself and the kind of leadership I want to employ. I started asking myself, would I want to be a leader so stiff that no one dares to commit a mistake. Do I want to become someone else’s Miranda Priestly in their career life so afraid to commit a mistake because they’d know they’ll be eaten by the mighty lion ready to snap his jaw around their neck because they can’t deliver the expectation that I have in place?

Then I realized, being a Miranda Priestly is not someone I am made up for. I never wanted to be that dreadful person who makes everyone pee when I arrive. A leader who is like Miranda Priestly makes shiver and a leader who employs fear to get ths job done.

As I mature, my perception about effective leader has changed. A leader is a mother so tender to understand his children no matter what happen. A leader is a father who has that ample amount toughness to sail the team towards the goal. A leader influences his people to do what is right. Above all, a leader is someone who can work tirelessly with his people towards achieving the goal, sailing together towards one mission and sharing one vision.

I wanted to be like Moana who leads her people by example. Who defy norms to save her people. That one leader who is willing to sacrifices herself for her people. Thats the leader who I want to become. The leader who operates for and by the people.

Take the leap and take the courage to take off.

Saturday, March 25, 2017

My Sweetest Hello

There will be so many nights when all we ever wanted is to love and be love. The night when we lay our heads on our pillow as we all have our sweetest hugs to that someone we care and love so much. Love does come in so many ways and so many forms.

Yes that is Love. Love somehow just like a wind. It blows swiftly and gently to alure and cool the burning flame of the sun. But just like the wind it can dispense water of the ocean and will swift the things in the land. Love if nortured it does magical things but sometimes LOVE also brings distruction to its host.

Those were the thoughts flowing down in my dreams. Hays... hopeless romantic... Sometimes all I needed ata is the love I imagined to have that even in my dreams my mind is painting it for me.

I was in these deep realization when I decided to doze back to bed.

I felt someone is touching my hear. Carressing it and humming a sweet song I never heard. When I openned my eyes and tried to wake up.

"Stop. My love please go back to sleep. I am just here to keep you safe. I am here to keep you company. I am here to warm you up in the coldest of the night."

As he is talking. I see his face so calm so tender. The lips so thin and yet so kissable. The eyes shaped as an almond. The nose that complements his face.

Niether did I know I felt safe in his arm. I felt the warmth and the comfort. I rested on his lap and closed my eyes as he continously humming.

I woke up the next day as I felt the sun started kissing my face. I woke up and to my amaze I dont see someone except me. I felt disappointed and aghast. Despite that I felt I am complete. I felt I am in love. I felt I am different. I felt excited to be back to sleep to feel the warmth of the man in my dreams.

I almost always pulled the day to end. I wanted to go back to where I felt safe, to where I felt the warm embrace, to hear the sweetest hum and to cuddle in someone's arm, to feel the love I ever longed for.

To my surprise in the deepest of my sleep. I hear the hum in such low baritone voice. It is sweet, it is soothing. "Where are you? I wanted to see you. I wanted to feel you," I shouted. No one answered. I shouted and I scream. I heard nothing but a hum. It slowly fades as the area goes dark. Pitch black then a total silence. I heard nothing I see nothing. Then it feels cold. Freezing cold. I can hear nothingness. I can taste the coldness. It was just one SWEET HELLO.

Thursday, March 23, 2017

How to Solve Boredom

Have you ever come up to a point where everything seems routinary? Feeling bored and burned out?

There'll always be a point where everything becomes routinary at work. At that point in time you'll be exhausted and feeling unproductive that even though you had tons of activity at work outside of your normal job description it still is not working.

Well at some point I had come to that point and if I cant overcome it I'm sure I'd have everything falling into the crack. Having tons of extra activities sometimes doesnt help that feeling of exhaustion.

If this hits you up, the solution is simple. For me, doing something outside your workplace helps kill that feeling of work exhaustion. Something that is physical and social. For me, one of my activity during my day off when I felt going to the gym or doing so off road running and brisk walking is not helping me eliminate those extra energy that is untapped, I visit my friends food store and do some chores there.

In this way, I would have the chance ro divert those untapped energy and make use of it. Sometimes we got bored on what we do because thats the only thing we've been doing day in and day out. At least when you get back to work after your day off, you were able to divert all your energy to a totally different environment and get back to work feeling refreshed.

Wednesday, March 22, 2017


That was a long week! From my usual daily grind of taking in calls to attending classroom and online trainings to doing post work activities. From a fixed schedule to definitely roller coaster schedules and definitely shattered sleeping patterns. I definitely needed a ME TIME.

This is my time to clear off my lungs piled with smoke, to clear my thoughts and to definitely blow off those piling belly fats.

I know I have to finish reading the books and reviewing my training notes but it simply is not working. Nothing is registering when your mind is tired, as soon as I woke up from a 13 hrs of hybernation I did some stretching and started to hit that ground from my house to the beautiful EVIA along Daang Hari Road.

I basically do a little of jogging and alot of brisk walking and definitely tons and tons of breathing exercise.

There will always be a time when we are simply just get so tired and frustrated at work. I have that at times and that my only way to escape and or move forward is simply to just sweat out those stressful thoughts and flash them out of my system.

I found peace at the gym or everytime I am doing some cardio exercise. It helps me clear my mind and organize my thoughts.

So after almost 2 hours of running and brisk walking I finally decided to go home. Along the way, I saw a gym to a newly openned mall along Daang Hari pretty close to my house. I decided to drop by and ask for their rates and try to see as to what they have to offer.

The gym is definitely nice, clean and thier equiptments are of course brand new and I guess a state of the art facilities. They stand by their name HYBRID FITNESS as I can guarantee their equiptments are dope and their gym trainors are buffylicious hahaha if I may say. I mean their trainors are definitely fit and hunky.
Photo is owned by HYBRID FITNESS GYM no copyright infringement is intended

So, if you are interested go check out there gym located at ALL HOME along Daang Hari Road Molino Cavite. They are open from 6AM to 10PM Monday to Saturday and 8 AM to 9PM on Sunday.

However, I havent had the chance to see if their shower room and their locker area since I am not a member. I wanted to take a picture to so as I could show you guys as to how it looks like but I was told I am not allowed even having a picture with their logo at the front desk I wasnt allowed too.

I am a little bit disappointed because I was so excited to take a picture and show how beautiful their gym was but I guess I will be sharing you more photos when I finally decided to pay a membership with them.

Its summer time and I am sure you are almost ready to wear those bikini's and trunks and wanting to have that beach body which I am longing to have. Go check HYBRID FITNESS and a certified gym instructor in a fully airconditioned modern gym with a brand new Gym equiptments. I am sure you'll be as excited as I am to cut off those flabby tummy.

Wanna know their rates? Here's what I got from that cute front desk guy

Alright, if you have visited the place let me know and comment your experience. So far based on my initial visit:
1. They have very neat and clean space.
2. Equiptment are indeed brand new.
3. They have a lot to offer.
4. They should allow people to take photos hahaha
5. The front desk is already friendly on my first appearance but his mood change a little in my second appearance asking is I can take a photo of their logo.
6. The place smells good it doesnt smell sweaty.
7. Staff should be smiling all the time.
8. Over all I will give them 7/10

Saturday, March 4, 2017

The Shack

The Shack is a movie where Tim Mcgraw, a loving father with a deep secret from his childhood.

The Shack has touched the soft spot in me. I cried a river while watching the movie because of the deep sorrow of the main character. The sorrow and depression he had to go through to the extent of questioning the mere existence of his creator.

Pain is the number one enemy of a person's growth and development. Pain if not managed properly is a deadend. It ends everything that you have. Pain can be a factor to someone elses depression.

In the movie The Shack, it is the wife, who is keeping the family together she acts as a mighty glue, a fuel in a relationship to keep it going and working. Without the wife strong belief and perseverance everyone would go astray. That I guess is the reality of life, we may be successful in whatever we do but time will come where we face great sorrow or pain that we cannot contain and we needed someone to step up to keep the ones we love and care in its proper order.

To free off yourself from the torments pain is causing you, it is inevitable for us to forgive no matter how hard it could be, no matter how discouraging it is, and no matter how painful it is to forgive that very person who is causing you so much pain. It is the only way for you to free off yourself and live the life you are meant to live.

It is life changing. I know it is hard to forgive but to finally say it over and over things gets easier to forgive geniunely. We can never be at peace or be happy if we keep the grudge and later on this very grudge will consume us without us knowing we are already in a pit hole, trapped, and unable to move forward.

Saturday, February 25, 2017

Its DayOff Time

We go gaga and exhaust all our efforts at work. Rocking our brain on processes and working on our numbers at work. We pressure ourselves to be the most productive and be as impressive as we can. However, what happens if we finally reach a day or two when we are not at work. I am sure we all love to have a dayoff.

For me, this is a time to do things outside my usual work. DayOff for me is the time to divert my energy and focus to other stuff. I value work life balance. DayOff is my me time.

So how is my usual dayoff looks like?

1. Time to be fit and fab. This is the best time for me to have my walking/jogging me time. I am not a gym rat. I wanted to spend a long walk or jog either at the park or by the road. I want off road jogging since I tend to meet other joggers or bikers along the way. Its a perfect time to be with nature while shedding out some unwanted fats and keep my metabolism working.

2. Reading - after running I am more likely to do reading a John Grisham pocketbooks or reading anything and everything about places I dream to visit one day. Reading diverts my mind from work related stresses. This is also the best time for me ti read motivational books and the bible.

3. Chatting with friends - it is the best time to minggle with people who is not a colleague. It is also the best time to share my plans at work and getting a different perspective on a project I am working or a problem I have be it personal or professional.

4. Watching a movie - movies are made to entertain most of the time but it is also a different way for me to learn how people thinks and approach problem solving or culture of a certain people in different places. Example a Korean Drama is presented in a different manner comparing it to a Filipino or American drama because it was written based on how we are raised.

5. Play with Kids - I dont know why but talking with kids sometimes makes my mood really good.

6. Finishing a household chores - since I live alone, I really dont have a choice but to clean and do all the household chores. Its actually good. Additional exercise for me meaning another form of exercising for me. This includes me watering

7. Learning new things. For me, Ive learned how to do bead accessories and I wanted to create more and better designs. Its one of my new hobby and I wanted to specialize in crystals and gem stones.

8. If given more time... It is also a perfect time to TRAVEL. I love visiting new places. Learning how people live in a certain demographic location, their culture sometimes their langauge but definitely its their culture that attracts me most.

9. WRITE something. Its one of the reason I do blogging. I wanted to write about anything and everything. It is an exercise for my creative mind. I wanted everything to be perfect but its ok if it is not. It is a lifetime partnership to learning.

So this is how I spent my day off. Its definitely a time for me to do other stuff aside from work but it doesnt mean I need to be in a bed all day doing nothing. It bores me to death so I have to do something a bit more productive.

Monday, February 20, 2017

I Am Running Out of Time

I remember, the first thing I did when I first got into college is to plan my life. I placed a detailed time frame for everything. From the time I graduate up to my first job and my supposed ladder to success. I told my self, college is just 4 years and I shall graudaute in 4 years and have a job on the same year I gradauted.

I planned on how I will be able to have my first job and the kind of job I wanted to build. I dreamed to be working in a finest hospital, but I knew it would not happen so I changed my plan and want to be in a corporate world. I read stories about the life in a corporate setting and so I told myself to prepare and to have a good exposure and build my confidence. I joined activities that would expose me to be talking in public and to be graceful despite under pressure.

Everything was doing so well. I am ticking off one list at a time as the years progress. I was on the right track the way I planned it. Until I got stuck and was not able to move. I got so pressured as I am being left behind. Everyone I know was getting the job I wanted to have.

Until one day, I just stop chasing left the job and tried figure things out. Then I realized, maybe it wasnt time for me to be in the position I wanted to have. I realized, I never had a mentor, I dont have some of the skills I needed to have to succeed. I dont need to compete with the people around me because everyone is running at their own pace, at their own timeline, and at their own rythm.

So I have to revamp my own plan. This time its not about getting this and getting that in a specific year or age. Rather I believe on things below in order for me to get to where I wanted to go:

1. Mentor

Mentors plays a very important role in career building. They are your advisers as you go through your journey. Thats what I needed. I needed a mentor who is well experienced in the career I wanted to pursue. A mentor at work and outside the office I think is a good combination so I would have people who would guide as I go through the challenges at work and an outsiders perspective in my plans and goals.

2. Skills and Knowledge

Of course I dont want to go in a battle without knowing how to load and fire a gun. I need to acquire specific skills needed to be successful in the job I wanted to pursue. So I will be bolder this time to ask for activities so I could develop my potentials and learn some skills needed. I will take all trainings that I think I need to attend trainings and seminars for me to have a knowledge and potentially apply it at work.

I remember some years ago, I wanted to lead a huge project but I just cant have opportunity at work. So I created that opportunity. I wanted to experience and I need the experience so I launch my own personal project.

3. Image

I just learned in my new job some months ago that your image is also important. It is how people percieve you as a person, a colleague or a leader would define your future career. It blew my mind. I never thought of that. I never thought and I never cared about my image before. So I hope I could re-image myself to be better. Its a work in progress and it will always be a constant work in progress.

So I guess I will start with these three principles in my quest to fulfilling my career bucket list. Just as I realized, I wasnt running out of time.

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Call Center Life: Coffee by the Road

Coffee has been my best friend since I started working at night. I am sure everyone in the graveyard shift would agree.

At some point there has been talks in social media branding the call center agents with different adjectives just because we sip cup of latte or capucino from a well known coffee shops in the metro. Yes, we go to those coffee shops to at least treat ourselves after that toxic calls we recieve on a daily basis which is also true to myself not because I brag or just for show off but simply just a treat for myself.

On the other hand, I also love sipping a cup of coffee by the street. I love it because I got to have the chance to chit chat with ate. To understand people is to be with people, thats what I believe in. I love learning about different kind of people. Ate inspires me to do better in what I do.

I support the small scale entreprenuer thats why I buy their stuff. I encourage others too to support them in every little way you can.